Stating that online dating apps cause relationships to start fast, end fast and burn out, experts say that the main problems in relationships and marriages that start through online dating apps are the inability to establish healthy communication and trust. “Dating apps pose a threat to relationships in terms of loyalty.” Expert Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız said that these people use apps for secondary gains such as self-confidence satisfaction, popularity, appreciation and attention, as well as looking for a romantic partner.

Üsküdar University NPISTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız gave information about dating apps and marriage.

“Online dating apps have become an easily accessible means of consumption”

Stating that online dating applications have become an easily accessible means of consumption for many people with digitalization in today’s world, Expert Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız said, “Online dating applications, which are easily accessible and include many alternative partner options, cause relationships to start fast, end fast and run out. When we look at the basis of the main problems in relationships and marriages that start through online dating apps, it is the inability to establish healthy communication and trust. Failure to establish enough healthy communication and trust in online environments leads to the rapid depletion of the relationship.”

“Couples who meet and marry through the app have a weak relationship foundation…”

Stating that an interaction starts with the physical appearance of people in online dating applications, but it contains needs such as strong relationships, establishing intimacy and depth, and emotional attachment, Expert Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız said, “When we look at the secrets of strong marriages and romantic relationships, factors such as healthy communication, loyalty, trust, commitment and intimacy come to the fore. When we look at the relationship ground of couples who meet and marry through the application, it is seen that the infrastructure is weak and the desire for attachment decreases in people. This situation leads to a decrease in satisfaction and satisfaction in marriages and an increase in divorces.”

Superficial and non-intimate relationships

Noting that when we look at the people who use dating apps, it is seen that they believe in the assumption that there can always be better, so they experience superficial and non-close relationships, Expert Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız said, “Therefore, dating apps pose a threat to relationships in terms of loyalty. When we look at the people who use online dating apps, it is stated that in addition to looking for a romantic partner, they are also used for secondary gains such as self-confidence satisfaction, creating an ideal self-image, gaining popularity, appreciation and attention. It is also known that people who use these apps often use dating apps to avoid real life problems, distressing situations and emotions. With the likes gained in these applications, the person tends to feel good, but this situation prevents the person from developing functional coping strategies in the face of problems, and causes them to develop avoidance behavior by taking refuge in the feeling of goodness given by likes in virtual environments.”

Online dating violence is on the rise

Stating that there is an increase in emotional violence inflicted by partners on each other through dating apps, Expert Clinical Psychologist Penbesel Özdemir Yağız concluded her words as follows:

“It is seen that emotional violence in online applications continues in relationships that start in practice and continue with marriage, and therefore couples are unhappy. When we look at online dating violence; at the beginning of the relationship, the person attracts the attention of his/her partner by showering the person he/she flirts with with likes and love messages on social media. He/she sends the message that he/she is special and valuable, thus establishing an emotional domination over his/her partner.

Relationship manipulation and emotional violence.

Afterwards, he gets bored with this relationship that he reaches easily and cuts off all communication. He starts to ignore it, appear and disappear. This is how manipulation and emotional violence occurs in the relationship. Jealousy problems are added. Unhappiness increases day by day in these relationships that lack emotional closeness and commitment.

Unhappy marriages lead to unhappy children. Thus, unhappiness spreads like an epidemic in society. In order to build strong marriages, to be a happy couple, couples should definitely get support from couple therapy and a specialist to work on each other and their relationships.” Doi number: https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.44883