Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir noted that marriage is a long journey that both individuals embark on with the motivation to establish a common life and that they must live every day with care, and draws attention to the fact that the biggest problems in marriage begin with the loss of care between people.
Emphasizing that ordinary marriage should not be allowed and emotional investments should not be abandoned, Demir pointed out the importance of open communication in family relations and noted that problems should be discussed openly without neglecting and solutions should be produced.
Üsküdar University NP Feneryolu Medical Center Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir drew attention to what needs to be done in a healthy family relationship.
We must learn to share with our family
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who stated that open communication is very important in family communication, said, “We should learn to share our feelings, thoughts and feelings with our family, to increase the quality of sharing, and most importantly, we should encourage our family members in this direction. Therefore, it is useful to express a situation that we are uncomfortable with without distinguishing any problem, by sharing healthy behavior without delaying the behavior and without allowing the problem to grow.” said.
Incompatibility and disagreements must be taken seriously.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who noted that severe incompatibility and disagreement is a situation that should be taken seriously at any level, said: Any sharing that prevents communication and transfer of emotions can lead to insoluble problems and make them inextricable.” said.
Professional support should be sought for the problems experienced
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who emphasized the importance of timely and correct intervention to the problem, said, “If you think that you are inadequate in solving problems or that you are alone, you can apply for professional psychological support. Many problems experienced between spouses can be overcome with couple therapists or by getting psychological support from the spouses. We all need a professional look from afar that will make sense of what we cannot see when we look very closely.” said.
Responsibility for childcare should be shared
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, stating that having children is a joint responsibility of couples, said, “Both spouses have the same or similar responsibilities. First of all, spouses should be aware of this situation. This should be the first rule to avoid conflicts. In child development, sharing the expectations of both spouses about child responsibility and developing empathy in this direction will prevent conflicts. If the social and work life of one of the parents causes disruptions in the child care and development process, this issue should be shared transparently between the spouses and solutions should be sought on compensation or alternatives. gave advice.
The child’s development may be adversely affected.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who noted that children need effective communication with their parents in order for them to have a healthy development process, said, “Parents’ conflicts over the most basic need of the child, ‘care’, can leave negative traces in many psychological, academic and social areas. Parents should be aware of this and develop correct behavior and gain awareness. The easiest way to do this is for the spouses to make an effort to understand each other.” she said.
Mutual care should not be lost, ordinaryness should be avoided
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir noted that marriage is a long journey that both individuals embark on with the motivation to establish a common life and that they must live every day with care, and said, “The biggest problems in marriage begin with the loss of care between people. In marriages that are allowed to become ordinary, feelings and behaviors that cause fundamental breakage such as abandoning emotional investments, losing empathy between spouses, allowing work and social life to come before the spouse should be avoided. warned.
Marriage is flapping wings together
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir concluded her words as follows: “Spouses should respect each other’s space and allow them to breathe in their own space. Marriage is not a bondage or a shackle, on the contrary, flapping wings with the person you are with. Being aware of this cycle ensures that the spouses have a healthy family structure. Desired respect in every relationship is actually a sine qua non of marriage.”
Source: (BYZHA) – Beyaz News Agency
